Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus by John Gray

In his book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex  , it offers many suggestions for improving men-women relationships in couples by understanding the communication style and emotional needs of the opposite gender.

The cave and the wave

One major point of Gray's books are the differences in the way men and women react under stress. He believes that many men withdraw until they find a solution to the problem. He refers to this as "retreating into their cave." In some cases they may literally retreat, for example, to the garage or spend time with friends. The point of retreating is to take time to determine a solution. What is known is that men in their caves are not necessarily focused on the problem at hand, many times this is a "time-out" of sorts to allow them to distance themselves from the problems so their brains can focus on something else. Gray's said this allow men to revisit the problem later with a fresh perspective.

When men retreat into the cave, it has been hard for women to understand because when they are stressed their natural reaction is to talk about issues (even if talking does not solve the problem). This becomes a major source of conflict between any man and woman.

While "wave" is a term Gray uses to describe a natural cycle for women that is centered around their abilities to give to other people. He claims that when they feel full of love and energy to give to others their wave is in a stable place. As they give to others (and don't receive the same amount of love and attention given to them in return) women's wave begins to grow until it eventually crashes. This is a time when a woman needs the love, listening, understanding and reassurance of those around her (including self love). Gray holds that once a woman is rejuvenated (by getting the support she needs) she is able to rise like a wave and once again has love and energy to give. Men must support this natural cycle by not being threatened by it or telling her why she should not feel this way.

Men can simply listen to her, constantly reassure her of his love/commitment/monogamy or take a few chores off her back (just a few simple chores will do). Most men get threatened because they think, "Why can't she be happy?" or think she is blaming him, but that is not the case.

How to Find Your One True Love by Bo Sanchez

I am really a fan of Bo Sanchez, I read his Kerygma magazine, I also I subscribe his Bo Sanchez Soulfood Letter for free. You can visit www.bosanchez.ph to find out how and even registered trulyrichclub.com. 


Taking responsibility for your love life is one of the strongest themes in this book. Bo tells you to ditch the “love at first sight" and “we’re meant to be" flubs that lead to wrong decisions and heartaches. Instead he encourages you to take deliberate action to meet other singles and enjoy enriching relationships.

Does this mean it’s okay for women to seek out men? Bo has a very interesting take on this and introduces the idea of flirtsome — wholesome flirting that women can engage in to attract the right kind of men.

He even advises women to meet as many guys and date as many of them as humanly possible. Of course, he emphasizes that these should be friendly dates on the premise that you’d want to fall in love with someone you can be friends with. He also enumerates six rules for dating to achieve the maximum benefit from this process.


Everyone wants true love but it seems only a few find it. Sometimes finding that one man to love you for all your life and forever feels like a hopeless cause, even a painful journey.

But bestselling author Bo Sanchez offers you hope in his timeless book How to Find Your One True Love where he outlines eight steps to “attract God’s best" match for any single person.

The book begins with a tough warning: this is not some mushy book with even mushier advice on how to find your knight in shining armor or that prince charming you will live with happily ever after.

Boy meets Girl by Joshua Harris

After reading his book " I kissed dating Goodbye",  after few years I saw his 2nd book title Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship - In the book, Harris will discuss how biblical courtship (a healthy, joyous alternative to recreational dating) worked for him and his wife Shannon, to give an encouraging and practical example for readers wanting to pursue the possibility of marriage with someone they're serious about. This updated version includes a new foreword, a new chapter, an all-new "8 Great Courtship Conversations" section, and some updated material throughout.

Also in here filled with inspiring stories from men and women who have rediscovered courtship, it is honest, romantic, refreshing and biblical. Keep God as the center in the relationship, as you read and discover how to: Set a clear course for your romance, get closer without compromise, find support in a caring community, deal with past sexual sin, make the right decision about your future.If you're fed up with self-centered relationships that end in disillusionment, it's time to rethink romance. Finding the loving, committed relationship you want shouldn't throwing away your hopes, your integrity, or your heart. I highly recommend this book, Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship

Why Men dont listen & women cant read maps by Allan & Barbara Pease

Have you ever wondered how, despite loving your partner, you sometimes get totally confused by their actions? Do they wind you up and no amount of explanation can help you get your head round why they do certain things?
Well, if you want to unravel the mysteries of the opposite sex, and understand why they do what they do, this is the book for you!


Have you noticed how a man can only do one task at a time? What does he do if the phone rings? He turns off the TV. Men cannot cope with such distractions. This explains part of the book title, why men don't listen. If they are reading the paper, everything else is blocked off so he can concentrate on the task in hand.  Women on the other hand can talk on the phone, have the TV on and do the housework, all at the same time! The same when speaking to a group of friends; women can speak all at once, usually on unrelated subjects and understand everything. To men this is very confusing!


One source of irritation to men is a woman's inability to read a map! A woman's natural reaction if reading a map is to turn it upside down, so it's facing the direction she is going. Because of their hunting skills in judging the speed and distance of their prey, men have developed better spatial skills, so he can rotate the map in head.

Women need to remember when they scream at their partner about the risks he is taking in the car, that his spatial skills are better than hers. This means he can make decisions which may look dangerous to her. As the Pease's say, "When men stop asking women to navigate, everyone's lives will be happier, and when women stop criticising men's driving abilities, there will be fewer arguments."


The book is a fascinating read. There are many examples of human behaviour which will have you smiling as you relate to what's going on in your life!